Life has a way of jolting your system
And we each have an equal way of swiping back
Notice how vindictive either side can be?
Watch out! There’s something about to happen!
How do you rein in the feelings?
You know, the ones that make you bite back?
Snapping turtle-like, or even that sneaking snake?
It’s a matter of knowing where you are in the moment.
Fight or flight has been the norm for many
Over ages, years, and centuries, or more.
Most of the time, and without consequences considered,
I’ll fight without even taking time to think or blink.
That’s why, after years of standing up, pushing back,
I’ve learned it’s wiser to step back and think things through
Choosing which battle is worth fighting and possibly losing,
Or the skirmish that’s not worth the calorie burn.
Not too long ago, when the battle line was drawn
Words became the weapons of a tired body and mind
These are the only tools we easily use the most
To hurt, maim, and knock about like a fool.
My weapon? Well said, “We have nothing to talk about.”
Quietly spoken, and nothing said could draw me in.
It’s the reality of the moment I knew I’d won
But it wasn’t about the win, it was about not joining in.
One person says when you are being criticized,
Simply say nothing, and smile. Disarming? No.
It rankles the other person. They don’t know what to think.
But you do. You won. Let that one sink in.
Another says, “Never raise your voice.” Okay.
But my voice is naturally loud. Boisterous.
So, I turn to whisper. Did I win? Sure!
The other side quieted down to hear what I was saying.
Address the moment; stop trying to respond.
Step back. Think it through. Allow the emotion to cool down.
Look at the moment with clarity. Find clear vision.
Let your words reflect who you want to be.
Win. Lose. Or Draw. It matters not the challenge.
Keep your wits, and don’t give a piece of your mind.
You know why. Go ahead. Say it aloud.
Do it too often, and you have nothing left to give.